41 But behold, because of the exceedingly great length of the war between the Nephites and the Lamanites many had become hardened, because of the exceedingly great length of the war; and many were softened because of their afflictions, insomuch that they did humble themselves before God, even in the depth of humility.
- Some people are hardened. They build up defenses which reduce their ability to feel and which make them less empathetic toward others. As a result, they are able to carry forward with their day-to-day activities in spite of the pain they have endured, but their lives become less fulfilling as they cut themselves off from some of life’s most rewarding experiences.
- Some people are softened. Their pain prompts them to humble themselves, which enables them to access God’s grace and His healing power. They become stronger as a result, more able to empathize with and help others in distress, more capable of doing God’s work, and, ironically, more sensitive to the emotional richness of life.